the importance of trust

by WizardOfWords on March 1, 2015

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Thanks so much to everyone who participated in our discussion on the previous post about gratitude. It was a good one. (It’s not too late to share your thoughts on that one if you’d like.)

In today’s post, I’d like to talk about the importance of trust in our lives and relationships.

To trust means to put one’s faith in someone or something. To have confidence in someone or something. To be free of doubt or suspicion.

A terrific quote about trust by Ralph Waldo Emerson, a 19th century American poet, resonated with me: “Self-trust is the first secret to success.” So true! If we don’t have trust in ourselves, no one else will trust us either. And if no one has faith in our abilities, we are highly unlikely to succeed.

So trust begins at home–within ourselves. But it is so important to be sure that we trust those in our immediate lives and show them that we have that trust. Remember the old adage, Show Don’t Tell. Our actions speak louder than words, and when action we take implies a lack of trust, it plants the seed for a reciprocal lack of trust. And a spiral of darkness often results that is the beginning of the end–to a business relationship, a friendship, or a marriage.

I really think that people take the virtue of trust too lightly. At least some people do, and the result is that some people make their way through life never learning how to put their faith in someone or how to completely trust someone.

I may be naive in some regards when it comes to trust. But I would rather be trusting, and get the occasional (virtual) bruise, than live my life by infusing doubt and suspicion into my relationships–whether they be business or personal.

Let’s talk about trust. Have you found a lack of trust changed the way you felt about someone? Or created an inability to work or live with someone? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

If you’re ever looking for a complete list of virtues, you’ll find it at this site. And if you’re looking for more in-depth discussions on virtues, Stacey Porto has a great site in Virtues for Life.

Please join us back here the week of March 15th for our next new post.

 

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my 10 catalysts of gratitude

by WizardOfWords on February 17, 2015

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It’s been a tough winter in many parts of the world. So I’m bringing you a post to help focus on the important–and small things alike–that bring us happiness and for which we are grateful.

10 things I am grateful for

1. The love and support of my husband and friends. I feel so blessed to have terrific friends (many of whom have been with me through almost every stage of my life) and a husband who believes in me.

Jimmy

2. A terrific cat that makes me smile every day. Those of you who know me well know that Jimmy is the light of my life.

3. A safe and comfortable home with terrific tasting clean water. It’s not elaborate or extravagant, but our home is cozy, safe, and comfortable and we have the BEST water! I don’t know about you, but every day after my shower (or bath), I thank God for it. I’m not a religious person, but somehow having access to good, clean water is almost spiritual to me and something for which I am extremely grateful.

4. The ability and opportunity to travel frequently. My life has been so enriched, and my own world so expanded from the experiences I have gained through travel.

5. Work that I love. Being able to combine my passions for interesting people, travel, and writing into a viable career is the best gift ever!

6. Enough intelligence to enable me to engage in conversation in most circles. Nothing fuels my soul more than talking to others and seeing what makes them tick.

7. A reasonably healthy body and mind. My small aches or discomforts are nothing compared to those of others.

8. A good example to follow from my parents. My mother with respect to being social and loving people, and my father with respect to having confidence and being determined.

9. An adventurous spirit. No explanation required. :-)

10.  A developed palate that enables me to appreciate flavours. I admit to being a lover of fine food, wine, and chocolate!

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How about you? Have you taken the time to reflect on the things that bring you happiness and help you feel gratitude?

I’ll close with this inspirational quote from Anthony Robbins that came to me yesterday via Twitter.

“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.”

I’ll be grateful if you join me back here the week of March 2nd for our next new post.

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finding your happy place

February 5, 2015
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I’ve just returned home from a month’s retreat at a lovely and serene wine resort in British Columbia. Somehow, I’d wished I never had to leave this peaceful place, as it was stress free and a place that enriched my soul and rejuvenated my spirit. I was in a truly happy place. Returning home was […]

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the need to rejuvenate

January 22, 2015
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I have spent the month of January at a wine resort in the South Okanagan Valley of British Columbia. I chose Spirit Ridge for this retreat because of its remote location and serene setting. Being here has made me slow down and actually have a relaxing vacation, versus the fast-paced trips I am usually engaged […]

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setting goals for 2015

January 8, 2015
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Happy New Year to all! Right now, I’m sitting at Spirit Ridge Vineyard Resort & Spa in Osoyoos, BC, enjoying 4 weeks of rest and rejuvenation. I learned long ago to listen to my body, and it’s been telling me to get out of my usual environ, and just chill. We’ve been here 5 days now and […]

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10 Most Important Things I learned in 2014

December 23, 2014
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2014 was a year of mixed feelings for me. My husband was critically ill from June through July, and I almost thought we were going to lose him. But he recovered, and the second half of 2014 was filled with much joy. As this is the final post I will be writing for this blog […]

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air travel with a cat

December 13, 2014
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Posts on this blog are generally related to books, virtues of life and the writing lifestyle. I generally save topics of travel for my travel blog. But as I’ve been travelling a fair amount lately, and have a multitude of posts in the queue, I’m posting this travel-related post here with hope you can help […]

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thankful for my friends

November 28, 2014
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With thanks and gratitude being top of mind this week because of the celebration of US Thanksgiving that has just passed, it made me realize how grateful I am to have terrific friends–and friends who love to travel! Sure, I’m fortunate to be able to travel the world for chocolate. But it wouldn’t be nearly […]

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Can you write a book?

November 16, 2014
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I was surprised when I heard Shelagh Rogers, the host of CBC’s “The Next Chapter” literary program, tell an author she was interviewing that she “could never write a book.” A person who spends much of her time interviewing authors and reading books believing (and admitting) that she doesn’t have what it takes to write […]

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augmenting the author’s income stream

November 8, 2014
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I’ve been a freelance writer since 1993. Although freelancing is challenging, and you have to weather the storms of either too much work at once or the dry spells when you have virtually nothing on the go, if you plan ahead, you’ll get by. But for the past year, I’ve pretty much been making my […]

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